“This is a
21 and up drinking tour about breaking the law in the United States for 13
years. That is a very adult topic. I am assuming that since you bought tickets
for this tour you are adults who can handle such adult topics. I do know what
some of you are thinking right now. 'Why is that 12 year old girl telling me I’m
an adult?' I am an adult and I’m old enough to be leading this tour. As an
adult, I will be using colorful language. So get used to it pretty fucking
quick because it’s just gonna start rolling out.” –Sydney Back, Chicago
Prohibition Tours Disclaimer
This tiny
blurb of a disclaimer changed the way my tour sees me.
I started
working for Chicago Prohibition Tours in June of 2015. By July 2015, I had been
told 3 separate times that the tour was interesting enough without cursing. I was told
by a woman two women over 40 and a review on the tour’s website. I
began to wonder whether I was coming on too strong. I softened up for a couple
of weeks afraid to say a single bad word. I started replacing “shit” with “crap”
and “fuck” with “freak”. I eventually started to realize that I didn’t
like to say those words. One of the reasons I signed on to do this tour was
because my boss cussed in his tour. It made me feel like my stand up background would finally be useful in a
job setting. It felt wrong that I was being told to stop doing one of the main
things I liked about the tour in the first place. The no nonsense, adult attitude
of the tour. As I was talking about Carrie Nation smashing up bars, the
Anti-Saloon League threatening and bribing politicians, and watching all of
these tourists enjoy high quality cocktails, I was being told that, “the cussing
was too much.”
I quickly realized it wasn’t me as a tour guide or the tour itself. There was a factor that I had not ever come into contact with until now.
I quickly realized it wasn’t me as a tour guide or the tour itself. There was a factor that I had not ever come into contact with until now.
You see, my
boss, a burly, bearded Chicago native in his 30s was wrote and lead the tour
for the first year after its inception. He immediately has agency in front of large groups of people.
I was a 21
year old blonde haired blue eyed woman. Most of our tour demographic have children my age. I’m from
Ohio which means if someone were to walk up to me right now and push me, I would apologize to them. I had never had a public
speaking job unless you consider asking customers if they want a Target Red
Card a performance. I admit I was nervous. But I loved the history I was
regurgitating and was trying to get better even on my days off. I remember
being in the shower, on the train, in bed, reciting the tour. I didn’t want to
be the reason a customer didn’t understand or love this history.
Too much cussing
still seemed like a strange critique. I thought one of the most interesting
parts of the tour was the ability to cuss and call out bull shit.
In the back
of my head there was always a little voice telling me what it probably was. A
young woman cussing. How horrible. They didn’t care about the opinions that I
gave but the words I used to give those opinions. The “F’ word was a no-no but
comparing the brainwashing tactics of the WCTU to the Nazi’s was perfectly
understandable. It wasn't me. It was people's perceptions of me, what they thought a girl should or shouldn't be doing or saying.
Since that time, I have not backed down from the cussing. I say the disclaimer at the top
of this post as a way to show my dominance. I agree it’s a little harsh but I
know that I have to work twice as hard for people to respect me. I didn’t do
the research. I didn’t write the tour. I do give the information in a way that
keeps people coming back. I love the information, history, lessons to be
learned from this era and want to share it with others. I’m no longer going to
put up with bull shit. There is one big lesson I’ve learned from my 3 years in
Chicago and 2 years of doing this tour: Sometimes people need to be told, “fuck off”. If you don’t like a 21
and up tour where a grown ass woman cusses, maybe you should stay home. We have
plenty of customers that either love it or are old enough to put aside a few
cuss words in the name of history.
I'm happy to say that in the last year and a half, there have been no more complaints for my cussing. To to that I say, "fuck yeah!"
Thanks for listening. Come back again.